Posts Tagged ‘business coaching’

Facing life’s challenges…how will you respond?
“Change the changeable, accept the unchangeable, and remove yourself from the unacceptable.” – Dennis Waitley


One thing I can promise – you will face challenges.

The quality of your life has nothing to do with the amount or severity of the challenges you face.

The quality of your life is a direct result of how you respond to life’s difficulties.

CJ

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Wish your life were easier?
“Never wish that life were easier, wish that you were better.” – Jim Rohn


It’s tempting to hope for different circumstances in your life.  We all do it.

However, there’s zero value in this exercise.

This week, focus on improving one behavior that will help you excel in your current situation.

CJ

PS – If you’d like to learn how to stay focused for all of 2012, check out this link.

The power of goals
“If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up people together to collect wood and don’t assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea”

– Antoine de Saint-Exupery


Most people are obsessed with tactics and spend all of their time asking – How are we going to set up the room?  Who’s going to follow up?  What’s the best method to track our progress?

I believe that tactics are important.

However, if your goal is powerful enough the tactics will take care of themselves.  If your goal is weak, the tactics will seem overwhelming.

CJ

PS – Check out this link if you’re having trouble finding a powerful goal.

What does your coffee say about you?

Last week, I had a speaking engagement at a historic building in downtown Indianapolis.

It is a beautiful building with a lot of space for meetings.  However, it’s about 1 mile from the center of downtown and as a result, it doesn’t get much foot traffic.

Regardless, the group I was speaking for took a chance and chose this venue for their largest annual event.

After eating a light lunch, I decided to get a cup of coffee.  Unfortunately, it was freezing cold.  And no, it wasn’t supposed to be an iced cappuccino.

What’s the big deal?  It’s just a cup of coffee right?

Wrong.

In today’s hypercompetitive environment, you have one chance to exceed your customer’s expectations.  One chance.

If you blow it, your customer is one Google search away from replacing you with another option.

For your business it might be the way in which you answer the phone, the look and feel of a proposal or how quickly you respond to a question.

Whatever it is, remember that your prospect/customer notices every little detail.

How hot is your coffee?

Platinum Rule

A long time ago, someone told about the Platinum Rule – “Do unto others as they want done unto them…”

In other words, before you try and impress a client, prospect or industry find out what they want.

Makes sense doesn’t it?

Then why is almost no one living by this rule?  How come every time someone attempts to sell me something they start off by handing over a brochure?

While I’m sure there are a ton of reasons, I think that we have all become experts at talking and completely forgotten how to listen.

We are so consumed with pushing information (email, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, etc.) that we neglect to ask ourselves the following question – “Does anyone care about what I am saying?”

What if you became the one person who listened first?

What if you put the interests of others before your own?

Why not give it a shot?

Life’s Tough
“Life’s ups and downs provide windows of opportunity to determine your values and goals – Think of using all obstacles as stepping stones to build the life you want” – Marsha Sinetar


I want life to be easy.  I never wake up first thing in the morning and think – “I really hope that today is filled with frustration and difficulties”.

You want life to be easy too.

Thank goodness for both of us life is tough, because tough times bring life’s most valuable lessons.

CJ

PS – Click here if you can’t name the most important goal you are striving to achieve by December 31, 2011.

Looking Forward – Light Bulb Moment #1

I coach leaders from sunup to sundown Monday through Friday and have been doing it for more than 8 years.

For some reason, this year has been filled with tons of “Light bulb” moments for me.  In these moments, I have had some profound breakthroughs that I know to be absolute truths.  I am confident that if you internalize these lessons, you will see great results.

It’s almost as if as soon as I hit the 8 year mark Obi Wan Kenobi sent me a text saying, “CJ, the force is strong within you…”

I’ll share some from time to time in this space.

I’ll start with one that hit me especially hard this week. I’ve noticed that some leaders want to focus on what went wrong during the past week, month, year, etc. Conversely, I have others who will briefly learn from their experiences and then go forward.

Guess which leader has more success?

I’ll admit that it’s tempting to replay past events over and over as if this obsession will change the past.

It won’t.

There is zero value in dwelling on your mistakes.

Leave the past in the past.

CJ

What is a leader?
“A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves.” – Lao Tzu


All too often we think of a leader as the person who stands in front and directs traffic.

What if we changed that definition?  What if a leader was simply the person who helped us to become the best we can be and took absolutely zero credit?

CJ

PS – How much could you get done if you cut all communication to the outside world for 2 hours every day?  Click here to learn how.

Paradigms

We all have a lens through which we see the world.  This lens was developed over time and is heavily influenced by our environment. If you grew up in a wealthy upper class neighborhood you fully expect that every kid should have a car when they turn 16, go on multiple vacations year and attend the best college.

On the other hand, if you were raised in a lower class environment you may have never been on an airplane, struggle to find bus fare each day and only know a handful of people who’ve graduated from high school.

The communication problem we all struggle with is that we expect everyone to see life through our paradigm. This is rarely the case.  Every time you get into an argument and you ask yourself, “How can they possibly think that way?” you are suffering from this challenge.

The next time you’re preparing for a conversation with a prospect, employee, coworker or your spouse I suggest that you carefully consider their perspective before you formulate your argument.

You can win the argument from your perspective and seem like a complete idiot to the person sitting across the table.

As Dr. Covey points out, “seek first to understand”.

CJ McClanahan is the Founder of reachmore. For more resources on business leadership, please visit reachmore’s seminars.

Blind Spot

Have you ever changed lanes in traffic and been startled by a loud horn from someone that you just cutoff?

Unless you ride the bus to work, this has probably happened to you on multiple occasions.

The problem we all have as drivers is that there is a small area that you can’t see in your rear view mirror called your “blind spot”.

What most people don’t realize is that they also have blind spots in their personal and professional lives.

These are areas where we have (and often have had for a long time) deficiencies we don’t realize.

For example, in my first few years in business I would attend many networking events.  Rarely did I meet anyone interesting and often left the event wondering why I had wasted my time.

One evening a good friend and client of mine (Larry) walked up to me and said, “Why don’t you just go home?”  When I asked why he suggested I leave, Larry told me that, “Everyone can tell you don’t want to be here.  You stand in a corner with this awful look on your face like you are better than everyone else.  Do you think people want to talk to someone like that?”

Initially, my feelings were hurt.  However, now I was aware that the reason I wasn’t getting good results from networking was because I was a jerk.

I changed my behavior and built my business attending these events.

Where’s your blind spot?

CJ McClanahan is the Founder of reachmore, which teaches small business owners how to build a business that runs without them.  For more resources on business leadership, please visit reachmore’s seminars.